It's also a sentiment too often echoed in romances lately. The hero and heroine banter, bash at one another, fall into an embrace, make out furiously, then start bickering again—lather, rinse, repeat—then finally decide to love one another. The constant push/pull, I love you/I don't love you has become, seemingly, a requirement to a satisfying romance.
Is it the writers who taught us that we can't enjoy a romance without the constant at odds and banter? Or did the readers demand more of the wicked dialogue, the indecision, the love/hate scenes? Or maybe the editors saw a trend and started steering writers toward those plots?
I think it's a combination of all of the above. Readers like a hero and heroine who are not always in agreement. If they fall in love too quickly, what's left? All the excitement and tension is lost. Or is it?
My April release, HER VAMPIRE HUSBAND, is one of my quieter stories. It focuses mainly on the hero and heroine falling in love. They fall in love rather quickly, and guess what, are pretty fine with that. They don't argue (too much), and would rather spend their time learning more about one another than spoiling it with silly arguments and misunderstandings. Besides, a war between paranormal nations is happening around them, and they join together to work through it. The conflict comes from outside sources, and only strengthens their relationship.
I'm not knocking the love/hate relationships featured in romances. I think they rock; they add interest to the story, and there's a lot of different ways to show love, yes, even with an argument or two. But has romance come to a point where it's all about the conflict between hero and heroine? Conflict makes for good story. But is it ALL the story?
And while I'm on the topic, what ever happened to that slow buildup to the first encounter that we used to get, oh, say, over a decade ago, from our romances (mostly in historicals). Used to be we might not even see the hero and heroine meet until chapter three, and that was fine. Nowadays, they've got to meet on page one. Smack! And if they can have sex by page ten—glory hallelujah! Sigh... There are days I pine for the 'long meet'.
So I'm tossing out this