Girl's choice: Who's your freebie?

I'm talking sex today. Or what it is we secretly crave. We need a good girlie chat with giggles and averted glances from one to the other. So pull up a chair and let's whisper...

I just finished watching Unfaithful, starring Diane Lane. I'm starting a new book, and I have a vision of Lane in my head as the heroine, so I wanted to watch something she had been in. I saw this movie years ago, and decided it had one of the most awesome sex scenes I'd seen in a while. Sure, the wife was cheating on her husband. But that first encounter, paralleled by Diane sitting on the train remembering everything she had just done with the sexy young man, was delicious to watch.

But it was a cautionary tale, both to husbands and wives. Girls, be faithful, or you might lose all trust from your husband. Guys, don't be going around bonking your wife's lover on the head with a crystal ball! It can only end badly, I tell you.

But back to the sex. See, the movie got me thinking. Do you have a freebie? You know, that one person, who, if they come knocking on your door, or run into you in an abandoned train station, you're allowed to have sex with them, despite the wedding ring on your finger or the fact you're committed to someone else? It would not be considered an affair. It's a freebie, no strings attached, you walk away from the encounter completely sin-free.

Now, your freebie can't be that cute guy down the block or an old boyfriend from college. In order for the concept of the freebie to work, that person is usually a celebrity. Someone out of your reach. Someone who frequents your fantasies (and they are only fantasies, girls, if they don't come true). Someone unattainable.

And yet...well, you just never know.

I know, I'm asking you to confess your freebie. But be bold! Let's have some fun. We all know we love to gaze upon a handsome man, we like to go to movies and enjoy watching them stride across the screen. We all have aspirations for our freebies. And aren't they safer than an actual affair?

My husband and I have discussed this. And yes, I think the whole idea of it is that you do discuss it with your significant other. You let them into that hidden side of you. That's the fun part. And no, you're not allowed to get upset over your partner's choice of freebie. Anyway, mine used to be Michael Wincott. And he still maintains freebie status, though I've added a few more to my list. The deal is, that if Mr. Wincott shows up on our doorstep and begs for me, I'm gone. (Not forever, just long enough to well, you know.) Sorry, that's just the way it works. You may look at him and wonder, what the heck? But he's mine, and I have my reasons, girls. The hubby has already been warned. He's cool with it.

So, I know 'the freebie' is singular, and doesn't imply 'more than one', but cut me some slack. I've added a few other choice selections (all husband approved): Christian Bale, Jonathon Rhys Meyers, David Belle. (No, Johnny didn't make the freebie list; he's on an entirely different list, and no, I'm not going to explain that one.) :-)

But a girl can't put too many guys on her list. The less the better. And who wants to have to fight them all off when they show up with roses and champagne, eager to seduce me? (Okay, so that part could be lots of fun, but no, I shall restrain myself from encouraging such a scenario.)

So let's talk freebies. Toss out the name of yours. I promise I won't tell.