tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post115812190372958654..comments2024-03-17T02:20:03.772-05:00Comments on Riding With The Top Down: Just exactly who is that Dixon chick?Kathleen Eaglehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13561028604927993773noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158511568058782222006-09-17T11:46:00.000-05:002006-09-17T11:46:00.000-05:00Loralee--Hello! Yep, I've come to understand that ...Loralee--<BR/><BR/>Hello! Yep, I've come to understand that I don't need to work as hard on my NO thing because I'd miss too many wonderful things in life if I did. :)<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you stopped by and don't be a stranger! I may need a little down home support from time to time.Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158461829272523272006-09-16T21:57:00.000-05:002006-09-16T21:57:00.000-05:00Makes total sense, Loralee. Can everyone tell we'...Makes total sense, Loralee. Can everyone tell we're all women here?Helen Brennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680081195181747377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158260822280529952006-09-14T14:07:00.000-05:002006-09-14T14:07:00.000-05:00Ah, I used to quilt. What a great way to get 'in ...Ah, I used to quilt. What a great way to get 'in the zone'. Welcome, Deb! And now that we know you're a 'no' chick, we'll just have to word our requests more particularly before putting them to you. ;-)<BR/><BR/>I'm getting better at 'no'. But I do believe in 'yes' as well. Balance. <BR/>MMichele Haufhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255612473985897103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158252638149485492006-09-14T11:50:00.000-05:002006-09-14T11:50:00.000-05:00Melissa--Okay, good to know that I'm not crazy! I...Melissa--<BR/><BR/>Okay, good to know that I'm not crazy! I'll take your advice and use Word for spell checking my actual blog postings.Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158252582103555912006-09-14T11:49:00.000-05:002006-09-14T11:49:00.000-05:00Lois--When I found quilting about 6 years ago, I f...Lois--<BR/><BR/>When I found quilting about 6 years ago, I felt I'd really found something that gave back to me spiritually and creatively. Plus quilts are *functional* art. I so love that about them.<BR/><BR/>And I sent my son off to college with his. It almost killed me because it was a hand quilted heirloom quilt. But you know...it was his quilt and why give someone something they have to keep in a closet?!! I honestly think he was so happy to have that quilt with him. That quilt was home and mom and he never had to be "unmanly" about needing his support system. The quilt just quietly reminds him that he is never truly alone.<BR/><BR/>He recently asked me for a second quilt. And now I know why I said "yes" when he asked to take his quilt to college. He's too macho to ever say it but his quilt means something to him and he wants one for his living room when he's watching tv or napping. He could buy a throw but he wants his mom to make him a quilt. Cool, huh?<BR/><BR/>Except he thinks he gets to jump ahead in line of people waiting for quilts. He has that only child-only son "prince complex."Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158251915119424562006-09-14T11:38:00.000-05:002006-09-14T11:38:00.000-05:00Candice--I've never taken a class or read anything...Candice--<BR/><BR/>I've never taken a class or read anything on improv and I find that tidbit so interesting. It does make perfect sense that "no" is a deadend and stops forward motion. Never looked at it like that.<BR/><BR/>You guys are giving me an unexpected and different perspective on saying no. Now that I'm thinking about it, I clearly do feel that saying yes opens doors and opportunities for me that are being sent my way. I do think I see no as somehow stopping forward motion and yet I've never recognized these beliefs. They've been there hovering beneath the surface driving my decisions.<BR/><BR/>This is such a cool blog! Love it!Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158210367932064772006-09-14T00:06:00.000-05:002006-09-14T00:06:00.000-05:00Welcome Deb! If you're using blogger's spell chec...Welcome Deb! If you're using blogger's spell check, it's been a hit or miss for me. Sometimes I just type into word and then paste it to make sure it's spell-checked.Melissa McClonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16715664439441831529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158196232278037382006-09-13T20:10:00.000-05:002006-09-13T20:10:00.000-05:00Deb,So glad to have you on board with us. Well, I...Deb,<BR/><BR/>So glad to have you on board with us. Well, I'm kind of on board. Heavily under deadline and usually insane. But I pop in now. I hear all good things about you. And now I know you quilt. I promised my daughter a patch work when she was six--kiddingly said I'd have it done by the time she graduates. She's a senior this year. Still no quilt. And here you are giving them away to neices. Wow. Am I impressed!lois greimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758677401591191607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158178899899266492006-09-13T15:21:00.000-05:002006-09-13T15:21:00.000-05:00Anne-I would pay real money to see you in a therap...Anne-<BR/><BR/>I would pay real money to see you in a therapy session. "No. The dream wasn't dark and steamy. I said dark and stormy."Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158178289860043602006-09-13T15:11:00.000-05:002006-09-13T15:11:00.000-05:00Melissa--You have my sympathies and envy. Two-yea...Melissa--<BR/><BR/>You have my sympathies and envy. Two-year olds are fabulous and scary all at the same time. I love the way they can be so sweet and melt against you. And I hate the way they always manage to find my face with a nerf ball!<BR/><BR/>If you check back, give me some reading recommendations for my 2-year-old nephew. He's gone through my tried-and-true favorites so I'm going to have to restock.<BR/><BR/>And congrats on holding firm about the job! It's hard to do.Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158177961730770942006-09-13T15:06:00.000-05:002006-09-13T15:06:00.000-05:00Betina--Thank you for the lovely welcome!I love th...Betina--<BR/><BR/>Thank you for the lovely welcome!<BR/><BR/>I love the nun's mindset. Makes me think of all the times I knew I should have said no but something pulled me to say yes. Why would I get so many opportunities if I wasn't supposed to go for it?? Okay, maybe I'll rethink my rededication to no.Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158177788592776932006-09-13T15:03:00.000-05:002006-09-13T15:03:00.000-05:00Dear Anonymous (Shelby)--Your quilt is coming soon...Dear Anonymous (Shelby)--<BR/><BR/>Your quilt is coming soon. And I didn't give you false hope in men! I just raised the bar. It worked. We like the new one.Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158177709120953402006-09-13T15:01:00.000-05:002006-09-13T15:01:00.000-05:00Helen-- Oh, yeah. Family just gets a free pass b...Helen-- Oh, yeah. Family just gets a free pass because they know I'm a sucker. You read my niece's post! And she is waiting on her second quilt which is in my quilt studio even as we speak. I'm sure she's thinking, "Why is Aunt Debi out there blogging when I have a quilt that needs finishing???"Debra Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992776098849029414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158175153772932682006-09-13T14:19:00.000-05:002006-09-13T14:19:00.000-05:00hi deb!! i tend to avoid going anywhere because i'...hi deb!!<BR/><BR/> i tend to avoid going anywhere because i'm so bad at saying no. which is completely spineless of me. i know it's spineless, so that avoidance makes me feel like an even bigger loser. oops. must dash to make an appointment with my therapist.anne frasierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13044828332429421657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158173157827181812006-09-13T13:45:00.000-05:002006-09-13T13:45:00.000-05:00As I was reading this blog, my toddler (nearly two...As I was reading this blog, my toddler (nearly two and already slightly terrible--or at least a minor terror) was screaming "NO!". <BR/>As for me, I have the tendency to say "nn-okay" to my family and friends. However, I was proud of myself yesterday because I did say no to going back to my former very stressful job (even though my former boss was really nice about asking).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158167088266849092006-09-13T12:04:00.000-05:002006-09-13T12:04:00.000-05:00You come back anytime, dear neice, and give us all...You come back anytime, dear neice, and give us all the dirt on your sweet ole Aunt Debi!!Helen Brennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680081195181747377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158161059135378992006-09-13T10:24:00.000-05:002006-09-13T10:24:00.000-05:00I just would like to say that growing up with Aunt...I just would like to say that growing up with Aunt Debi I do believe we heard no sometimes!!! However, it always started with no and then ended up being "ok" or "here is your quilt (still waiting on my 2nd one)." :)<BR/><BR/>I will say, she did introduce me to the wonderful world of romance books and now I can thank her for giving me false hope in men. They certainly don't live up to the men in romance novels!!<BR/><BR/>I do admit that I have a cool Aunt and can't wait to read more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158154194500415382006-09-13T08:29:00.000-05:002006-09-13T08:29:00.000-05:00Hurray!Welcome, Deb! You're the best and your int...Hurray!<BR/><BR/>Welcome, Deb! You're the best and your intro blog shows why. . . warmth wit, humor. . . oh, and the precious and increasingly rare inability to say "no."<BR/><BR/>I used to fret over not being able to say no and found myself stretched verrrry thin at times. So I tried saying no to a few things and not only felt lousy about it, I now think I should have said yes a few times I didn't!<BR/><BR/>Then I met Sister Beverly, a nun with a potent spirituality and a killer sense of humor. She said to me that she almost always says "yes" to things that people ask of her, because she never knows what God is going to send her way and doesn't want to be in the awkward position of saying no to something God really wants her to do. Hmmmmm.<BR/><BR/>So --without going into an in-depth debate on the ontology and eschatology of that outlook here-- I decided to adopt it. Or at least try it. Each time I'm asked to do something, I remember it and try to let it guide me in decision making.<BR/><BR/>In short, you never know when saying yes might lead to a great opportunity, a lovely surprise, or a chance to help someone or even the world. Good stuff, all.<BR/><BR/>So, maybe there's a good reason you outgrew the "NO" phase, Deb! Maybe you're a gift to us and to the rest of the world with your "nn-okay." I know I sure think so. And by golly, I'm celebrating!<BR/><BR/>Welcome, welcome, welcome!Betina Krahnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11379124690406269848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27662400.post-1158153800571565442006-09-13T08:23:00.000-05:002006-09-13T08:23:00.000-05:00First, Deb, a very heartfelt welcome! And I'm not...First, Deb, a very heartfelt welcome! And I'm not going to apologize for one second for asking you to blog with us. Well, maybe one, but no more than that!<BR/><BR/>As for saying no? I didn't used to be able to do that very well, but I've had to figure it out within the last couple years, or literally go insane.<BR/><BR/>The place I'm always a sucker is with my family. "Mom, can I have a kitty?" "Mom, can I have 20 bucks?" "Honey, can I go on this mountain biking expedition that costs $2,000? Oh, and by the way, I'll be gone for two weeks." (just kidding)<BR/><BR/>They get me every time.<BR/><BR/>I guess I have no hard and fast answers for you, Deb. But I will tell you this, now that we have you, we're never letting you go!!!Helen Brennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680081195181747377noreply@blogger.com